Taking a Career Break in My 40s: A Journey to Self-Discovery and Slowing Down

At the age of 45, residing in London, I found myself embarking on an unexpected journey of self-discovery and personal acceptance, shaped by a career hiatus that stretched from months into years.

My early years were turbulent, marked by significant educational gaps and an uncertain professional path throughout my 20s. By 32, in 2012, I felt adrift with no clear direction.

A Decade of Unanticipated Achievements

In 2013, my lifelong interest in coding led to a pivotal role at a content marketing firm, formally initiating my career in technology. Fast forward to 2021, and I was heading the technology department for the UK government’s main website.

The following year, I decided to take a six-month sabbatical, which unfurled into an 18-month exploration around the globe. The adventure dug up profound self-realizations that necessitated attention.

Redefining My Career Break as Self-Parenting

Initially, the notion of explaining such an extended break in my professional timeline made me uneasy. However, I came to see this period as akin to a parental sabbatical, during which I was rejuvenating my own neglected needs.

This experience paved the way for self-acceptance and presence, both of which have been profoundly transformative.

Discovering New Needs on My Journey

By 2014, contract work with a government department ignited my passion for service design, which culminated in my head of technology role at GOV.UK in 2021. A year later, I took a much-needed pause to address personal issues from a challenging childhood and reconsider my career trajectory.

As I delved into writing my memoir, I faced gaps and internal discontent—an indication I required more time for introspection. My travels through vibrant cities such as New Zealand, Bangkok, and Singapore reflected an unyielding desire for control. Despite seeking relaxation, I was caught meticulously planning ahead, prompting exhaustion akin to work-related burnout.

Embracing Neurodivergence and Personal Growth

Melbourne became my temporary home, where I dialed down my pace. By mid-2024, after realizing I needed further pause, I settled back in the UK for good.

During my travels, I connected with others who shared neurodivergent traits. This journey led to my ADHD diagnosis in late 2024, followed by an autism diagnosis in mid-2025. Such insights gave light to my incessant restlessness and the drive that propelled me to new locations weekly during my break.

This self-awareness helped untangle the emotional and mental inertia I carried, allowing me to embrace rather than reject my individuality. Medication provided a slower pace, promoting emotional healing by confronting long-ignored feelings.

Slowing Down to Savor the Present

By acknowledging and caring for my needs, I transitioned from putting myself under pressure to nurturing routines that replenished me. Embracing a new philosophy of self-acceptance, I permitted myself to exist without the need for continuous accomplishments.

In June 2025, I launched 'ADHD Pathfinding,' a nonprofit with a mission to enhance ADHD care across the UK, inspired by my journey of slowing down to capture the fleeting essence of life.

Although I’ve explored more of the world than many, my rapid pace often caused me to miss precious experiences along the way. Understanding the root of this relentless speed—be it ADHD or past traumas—allows for a deeper connection with life by learning to take it slow.