Adapting Our Approach for Our Next Move: Lessons from Moving to Africa

A decade ago, my family transitioned from Texas to the vibrant region of Tanzania and faced a series of unexpected challenges. We soon discovered the necessity of seeking assistance and giving ourselves time to overcome language hurdles. As we prepare for a fresh start in Portugal, we're armed with strategies to ease this transition.

Initially arriving in Tanzania, we visited Zanzibar for some cultural immersion and language lessons. Almost immediately, we recognized our lack of preparedness for the profound changes in lifestyle. Visiting during Ramadan, we encountered a world where eateries and shops remained closed during daylight hours, and public consumption of even water was discouraged. These norms, ingrained in the local populace, were foreign to us and outside our comfort zone.

Our family of four was determined to forge bonds with locals and when we settled in Dar es Salaam, we embarked on the journey of embracing Tanzanian culture from an American perspective—a project that unfolded over eleven years.

Now, as we face the prospect of moving to Portugal, we still feel the loss of leaving Tanzania, but carry hopes that our past experiences will enlighten this new move.

Key Lessons for a New International Life

Lesson 1: The Importance of Inquiry and Support

Our Tanzanian move was guided by numerous questions about everyday living, yet it proved insufficient. In preparing for Portugal, we've expanded our circle to include Portuguese friends and expatriates. John’s 'auntie' in Portugal, found through his grandmother, will serve as a pivotal local resource as we settle into Lisbon. These initial contacts are essential for getting one’s bearings in a new land, from figuring out essentials in a new home to finding authentic local markets.

Lesson 2: Embrace Language Learning Without Pressure

I felt immense pressure to rapidly become fluent in Swahili when we lived in Tanzania. Although we managed reasonably well, I wish we’d paced our learning. As we transition to Portugal, my aim is for our family to balance eagerness in learning Portuguese and adhering to local customs without undue stress over proficiency.

Recognizing that acquiring a language and its cultural nuances is a gradual process allows for more natural integration. Thankfully, locals often warmly assist those genuinely trying to learn.

Lesson 3: Identifying Joy Amidst Difficulty

In Tanzania, it was tempting to dwell on hardships, but we eventually learned to seek out 'bright spots'—simple joys that provided comfort and escape. In Portugal, we're already earmarking potential refuges while remaining open to new discoveries post-move.

Our upcoming relocation to Portugal promises its own set of adjustments, but our experiences have prepared us. As a family of six, we've grown our emotional resilience and understanding, equipped to face any challenges together. We've learned what personal items and cultural insights can furnish us with comfort as we land in new surroundings.

We anticipate the new friendships, adventures, and opportunities Lisbon will offer as we embark on this exciting chapter.