Returning to My Roots: The Benefits for My Family

Four years ago, my husband and I decided to relocate from Georgia to my quaint hometown in Kansas, enabling closer connections with family for our two sons, who are now 6 and 8.

Fostering Family Bonds Through Proximity

Our current residence isn't just where I spent my childhood; it also hosts much of my father's side of the family. This includes my parents, brother, several pairs of aunts and uncles, as well as four cousins and their families. Additionally, more relatives reside less than an hour away.

Being near family ensures that our children are growing up alongside their cousins. Whether on the same sports teams or as opponents, these regular interactions showcase everyone's talents. Our elementary school alone boasts seven cousin pairs (technically second cousins), with some even sharing the same class. Next year, more will join them as they start kindergarten.

Sharing close proximity with family allows for impromptu carpooling, playdates, and information sharing about school activities and events. As they get older, our children will partake in sleepovers with their cousins—experiences that are becoming increasingly rare but cherished thanks to the more traditional, trusting adult environment we enjoy.

Strengthening Our Marriage with More Quality Time

Living near my parents grants my husband and me more opportunities to enjoy outings together. Whether a casual night out with friends or enjoying a home-bound evening with adult-themed movies, these instances are facilitated by offering our kids a sleepover with their grandparents—a practice encouraged and loved by all involved.

Their grandparents frequently have the children over for spontaneous visits. It's quite the norm for my youngest to request a visit to Grandma's after school. If she's available, she'll respond quickly, allowing me some quiet time at home, with my husband periodically picking them up afterward.

For unexpected personal errands or necessary alone time, my retired dad becomes the caretaker, readily watching over the kids. This seamless support system works wonders for maintaining a balanced family life.

Acknowledging the Downsides

While my husband, hailing from the South, might dislike the cooler climate here, this small-town essence is perfect for nurturing our family. The benefits of familial support and the children's connection with their relatives outweigh the seasonal inconveniences.