How to Re-engage Past Connections for Job Search Assistance

In the quest for new employment, now isn't the time for timidity.

Today's job market is intensely competitive, making networking indispensable, even if that involves reconnecting with former coworkers, old acquaintances, or distant contacts who are now employed at your target companies.

Roy Cohen, a career advisor based in New York, recounted a case where a client reached out through LinkedIn about a promising job at a private-equity firm where a former college friend worked. Although they hadn't communicated in over ten years, the ex-roommate agreed to introduce him to the hiring manager.

Cohen emphasized, "Asking for help requires bravery, but it's essential to find ways to gain an edge."

Rich Gee, an executive mentor from Stamford, Connecticut, advises not to think of reconnecting as bothersome. Many have experienced layoffs personally or know someone who has.

Gee reflected, "Two decades ago, such actions were frowned upon. Today, mass layoffs are commonplace."

Crafting Your Outreach Message

For effective communication, Gee advises using a casual and succinct email subject line like “Remember when?” or “Long time, no see!”

Kevin Grunewald, a recruiter from Texas, suggests starting by reminding the individual of your shared history. He once received a LinkedIn message from someone he vaguely knew until they mentioned collaborating on whiteboard sessions eight years prior.

Grunewald noted, "That memory drew me back to that meeting room," leading him to refer this colleague to an appropriate job opening. Shortly thereafter, they secured the position.

In your communication, Gee advises complimenting your contact to show respect. Scan their LinkedIn for recent achievements like a work anniversary or conference speaking engagement. "Focus on them, not solely on yourself," he suggests.

Afterward, express your interest in the position where they work and briefly convey your qualifications, as outlined by Jeff Neil, a career counselor in New York. Be transparent about your skills and background to facilitate an informed recommendation.

Maintain Composure

Avoid direct requests for favors, such as asking for a manager's contact details, as this might be off-putting, cautions Amanda Goodall, a workforce-intelligence expert known as “The Job Chick.”

Instead, inquire about their insights into the role or the best approach to apply. Perhaps mention you're contemplating applying and seek their feedback.

Goodall points out that "It's an effective flattery approach. People enjoy discussing their area of expertise," and they might even offer a referral, particularly if their company incentivizes employee recommendations.

Consider requesting a short 20-minute call, as suggested by Janet Fagan, a career advisor from New Mexico. Proposing a limited timeframe can make them more receptive than an open-ended meeting request.

Finish by offering to reciprocate as a helpful resource, Fagan advises, since individuals value knowing their assistance could be reciprocated.

Keep the Momentum Going

If you don't immediately get a response from your old contact, wait a week and gently nudge them again, advises Neil, as they might be preoccupied or away.

Simultaneously, continue expanding your network, says Goodall. If you regret falling out of touch, view this as a learning moment to emphasize relationship nurturing. Even if contacts aren’t currently responding, they might later if you keep consistent communication.

Goodall suggests, "Set reminders to check in periodically, helping keep those connections warm." People dislike feeling exploited.