At 37, I'm Child-Free While Building Wealth

My name is Nur Anderson, creator of the fashion line Can't Relate. At 37, I've decided to hold off on having children until I achieve a significant financial milestone, specifically reaching $1 million in sales. This choice stems not only from financial concerns but also due to the demands on time and energy.

A Childhood Dream Born from Fashion Desires

Growing up in a typical family setup, I witnessed my parents' dedication to providing what myself, my brother, and sister desired. I developed a penchant for luxury brands like Prada and Gucci, leading to an early start in the workforce at 14, earning $7 hourly to fund my expensive tastes. Sneakers, particularly, were my weakness, often requiring creative explanations to my mom about their cost.

Finding Purpose in Tragedy

Tragedy struck during my early twenties, profoundly affecting my life. At 26, my brother Malik was tragically shot and killed, a loss that left me seeking purpose. I briefly joined the Army Reserves, which spurred the idea of a clothing brand dedicated to combating gun violence, preserving Malik's legacy through Can't Relate. Officially launching in 2017, the brand has grown immensely, now valued at approximately $1.6 million.

Determined Focus on Career Before Family

Navigating early adulthood, my priorities shifted significantly following family losses, including my father's untimely death. With responsibilities mounting, balancing family and entrepreneurship became my focus. I vowed that parenthood would not commence until I secured a $1 million revenue from my company, understanding that both family and business require undivided attention and dedication.

A Father Figure in Different Ways

Presently, I play a significant role in my nephews' lives, aged 10, 4, and 2. My eldest nephew Zach even expresses interest in one day leading the family business, a prospect that excites and motivates me. Despite plans to eventually become a parent, my current efforts involve positively impacting countless young lives affected by gun violence, encouraging them to pursue dreams regardless of circumstances.

In reflecting on my journey, it's crucial for me to inspire teens, promoting hope and resilience as attributes to be proud of in creating a lasting legacy for both Malik and myself.