Leaving My Job at 35 After Loss, and the Unexpected Job Hunt Ahead

When my husband passed away at 39, my emotional and physical state was paralyzed by shock for years.

Back in 2018, at 34, I experienced a life-changing event that took a toll on my health and mental state. The trauma led to ongoing stress, and it took a considerable time before I began to feel some semblance of normality.

Shattered Future Plans

We were in our London apartment when he suddenly collapsed. From that instant, a frantic rush to the hospital ended with him being declared dead within 45 minutes due to a pulmonary embolism following deep vein thrombosis. Our dreams and plans vanished.

At that time, I was striving in my career as a PR manager. My employer was extremely supportive, allowing me a month's break. Following that, I gradually returned over half a year but found it difficult to concentrate, feeling utterly detached from my professional duties.

Work, once meaningful, became an insignificant dust beneath my feet. Unlike others who might use work as a distraction, I fell into a state where nothing seemed to hold value.

A Shift in Career Path

In early 2019, I joined a women's charity part-time, retaining connections to my career. Although originally a small commitment, I ended up in an executive role, which, despite being unexpected, left me exhausted.

In 2020, seeking self-focus and prioritizing my wellbeing, I decided to resign and haven't been employed since.

Finding Love and Family Again

As life evolved, I questioned if happiness would return. Resolving to move forward, I engaged with dating apps, hoping to realize my dream of motherhood. I met another wonderful man, and we started a family.

With his career opportunity, we relocated to Chicago. Initially, my visa restricted employment, so I devoted my time to our son. Feeling a bit of solitude, I embarked on a part-time MBA, which I balanced amidst adjusting to motherhood and awaiting my green card.

Reentering the Workforce

Now, with my right to work secured and a growing family, the desire to resume my professional journey beckons. The years of grief felt long enough; reintegrating into the professional sphere seemed daunting after stepping off a promising path.

Despite ten job applications, penetrating the competitive market proved challenging. Employers struggled to see the relevance of my UK charity sector experience. Also, the need to adapt to the more outspoken culture in the American workspace presented a new hurdle.

New Ventures

Drawing from my experiences, I created Lemons.Life, an online service to simplify will creation—a response to complications I faced after my first husband's passing. While proud of our progress, it remains a side pursuit apart from seeking a primary job.

Reflecting on My Journey

Looking back, I wish I had pushed harder professionally in my 20s. Lingering in positions too long with hopes of impending motherhood left influences on my career trajectory.

Confronting the cards life dealt, I've become stronger through these trials, though the lingering effects on my career journey are undeniable.