Reflecting on Life in Japan: Three Things I Long for After Returning to the US

Back in 2005, my family relocated to Japan as my former spouse received orders to serve there. The three years we spent in Japan were filled with fond memories that resonate with me, particularly the therapeutic onsens, lively cherry blossom festivals, and mouth-watering cuisine. These experiences left a lasting impression that I continue to miss.

When my then-husband received military assignments to Japan, my emotions were a mix of excitement and anxiety. Our oldest child was just walking, and the thought of being oceans away from our American support system was unsettling. Nonetheless, even with no international travel experience, I embraced the adventure and found myself heading to Sasebo on Kyushu island.

Immersing in a Foreign Culture

Our family of three took the plunge from Pensacola, Florida, embarking on a life-altering journey to Japan. During those remarkable years, I plunged into the culture of my new surroundings, embracing everything that it had to offer. We initially settled into a classic Japanese home, later transitioning to accommodations provided by the U.S. Navy. The memories of that time are vivid—visiting ancient landmarks, indulging in local shopping, and singing my heart out in karaoke sessions.

Embracing Japanese Traditions

During this period, I experienced living in ryokans, travelled on the famous Shinkansen to iconic cities such as Kyoto, and explored bustling Tokyo. I even expanded my travel horizons to neighboring countries, such as Thailand and South Korea. One of my most cherished memories was when I welcomed my daughter in a local women's clinic in Japan.

Finding Comfort in Onsens

Japan’s onsens, or natural hot springs, provided an unparalleled form of relaxation. I often walked a short distance from our residence to a nearby, budget-friendly onsen. Despite the language barrier, regular patrons recognized me, a lone foreigner among the Japanese women and children. Observing the rituals, such as pre-bath cleansing and hair etiquette, was a nod of respect towards their customs.

Our ventures included a sojourn to Kurokawa, a town famed for its onsens. There, we soaked in baths that flowed through caves or offered views of a serenely gurgling stream and cascades. Onsens became my go-to for tranquility and personal care, a ritual I dearly miss.

The Beauty of Cherry Blossoms

Cherry blossom season in Japan heralded a spectacular but fleeting display. These sakura trees captivated the nation only for a few days, prompting observers to strategically plan celebrations. In spring, I delighted in taking photographs, attending social gatherings beneath the blooms, and savoring nighttime strolls where illuminated blossoms mirrored pink snow.

I continue to visit cherry blossom events in Virginia, yet none compare to the splendor of Japan’s sakura season. The vivid memories persist as I yearn for these cultural festivities again.

A Culinary Revelation

Japanese cuisine introduced me to a new world of flavors, enriched by the word 'oishii,' meaning 'delicious.' Sushi, adorned with succulent fish, savory tempura, and crispy tonkatsu, became meals I eagerly anticipated. Discovering dishes like yakitori and shabu shabu enriched my palate further, while comforting bowls of ramen and udon became staple selections.

Dining often meant sitting on tatami mats; visual menus facilitated communication barriers. One dining spot stood out—a conveyor belt sushi joint where endless plates of oishii offerings circled for patrons to select. Though I still enjoy sushi today, none quite matches the sublime quality experienced in Japan.

After more than a decade away, the thought of returning to Japan is exciting. I anticipate revisiting during the cherry blossom bloom, indulging in onsen retreats, and relishing the exquisite culinary traditions that once were a part of my daily life.