Choosing a High School at 14: Decisions and Regrets

My math teacher confidently declared that the scientific track was tailored for me, but my Italian teacher sensed my penchant for writing and recommended the classical stream. Yet, subjects such as Latin and Greek, which are integral to that curriculum, didn't captivate me. I found myself at a crossroads.

Growing up in San Marino, a small enclave within Italy, presented the option to study in either San Marino or Italy. By the age of 14, I had to commit to a high school with a set curriculum that would influence my educational trajectory. At that age, I struggled to decide on a dance style, let alone a lifelong path.

Facing a Daunting Decision

High schools are categorized into lyceums, technical institutes, and vocational institutes. Lyceums offer a broad pathway for future university studies, whereas technical and vocational institutions emphasize practical skills.

Selecting the right lyceum can be overwhelming. The scientific and classical lyceums are lauded for their rigorous preparation for challenging university courses. However, opting for something more specialized, as I eventually did, is another route.

My parents supported my freedom to choose, reassuring me that changing schools in the first year was feasible if needed.

After lengthy deliberation, I enrolled in the Human Sciences High School, driven by personal interest rather than teacher endorsements. Beyond core subjects like Italian, English, and mathematics, additional classes such as theater, Spanish, political economy, law, and social sciences were on offer. Plus, unlike many others, this school freed up my Saturdays, making my decision easier.

Nurturing Artistic Passions in High School

Compared to middle school, high school was a breeze. I excelled academically while indulging in arts like guitar playing and singing. Despite enjoying these activities, apprehensions about my college readiness lingered, especially if I wished to embark on a science-related degree.

Over time, I realized that my deliberate escape from the scientific-classical dichotomy made me overlook other potential paths. With a love for languages and traveling, the linguistic lyceum might have suited me better.

Socially, doubts clouded my choice. Shy and attending a smaller school, I made few friends and was far from being well-liked. I wondered if a larger school might have opened doors to meeting peers with shared artistic and cultural interests.

My thoughts scattered constantly, and my anxiety over my decision persisted for years.

Acceptance After Years of Uncertainty

Ultimately, I remained at my chosen high school, pursued a bachelor's degree in information, media, and advertising, followed by a master's in communication and information sciences. Now, I am a writer with expertise in copywriting and social media strategy. The high school I attended surely didn’t hinder my future, and I've made peace with the decision made in my youth.

Overcoming the lingering thought that an alternate choice might have been better took time. Therapy affirmed that making such decisions at a young age is tough, and I genuinely acted in my best interest back then.

Today, I take pride in having followed my aspirations instead of conforming to others' expectations.